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Cultivate Good Behaviour In Your Child Using Chinese Classics Di Zi Gui

Di Zi Gui, or the Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child, emphasises the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony.

Parents have the obligation to and are responsible for their children’s upbringing. When a child possesses good behaviour, it represents that he is a respectable person raised by respectable parents.

While most parents feel that they can teach their children character development and good behaviour, what then do they base their teaching on?

I strongly believe that environment is one of the main factors that influence a child’s upbringing and character development. I conducted Chinese Enrichment Programmes using Chinese Classics Di Zi Gui (弟子规) for children of age 6 to 12 years old in various learning centres as well as People’s Association (PA) Community Centres and Residential Centres (RC) in Singapore.

I give assignments to my students to apply the knowledge that they learn in my class into daily practices and completion of simple household chores/tasks that require their parents’ acknowledgement.

However, Di Zi Gui <弟子规> is only another reference if parents do not practise what they preach.

Hence, to be effective in learning Di Zi Gui <弟子规>, I started a Di Zi Gui <弟子规> talk/workshop for parents. The objective is to equip parents with the essential knowledge and necessary resources to learn and practise Di Zi Gui with their children at home.

In this online course, parents, caregivers and teachers will learn all about using Di Zi Gui as the guiding principles in developing and cultivating moral values in young children.

Di Zi Gui, which is also known the Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child, is a well-known secular Chinese Classics based on the ancient teaching of the Chinese philosopher, Confucius. For more than 2,000 years, Confucius’ deeds had been admired by both government officials and the general public, and his character was emulated by many. His philosophy has become the mainstream of traditional Chinese culture and the basis of moral norms.

Di Zi Gui, or the Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child, emphasises the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. It covers core values of Respect, Responsibility, Resilience, Integrity, Care and Harmony.

Apply immediately with your child(ren) after you have learned it.

I welcome you embark on this learning journey with me now.

BONUS – when you sign up and enrol for this course, you will get access to a Learn Di Zi Gui Video worth US10.00.

Course Curriculum

  1. Introduction 01:37
    Why Take This Course? FREE
  2. Introduction to Character Education 01:43
    Character Education
    Chinese Classics Di Zi Gui As A Parenting Guide FREE
    The Benefits of Character Education
    A Chinese Way of Life 07:30
    Background FREE
    How is the Chinese Way of life different from the West?
  3. A Chinese Way of Life
    Ancient Chinese Philosophy
    Confucius and Modern Child Rearing
    Why Are Hundreds of Harvard Students Studying Ancient Chinese Philosophy?
    CONFUCIUS SAYS: MODERN CHILD-REARING IN SYNC WITH ANCIENT THOUGHT
  4. Introduction to Di Zi Gui 05:22
    Di Zi Gui
    Introduction to Di Zi Gui
    The Seven Chapters of Di Zi Gui
    7 Chapters of Di Zi Gui
  5. Di Zi Gui – Meaning Explained Line by Line 06:18
    Chapter 0 – Introduction
    Di Zi Gui Line 1 to Line 2 FREE
    Di Zi Gui Chapter 1 21:58
  6. Chapter 1. Filial Piety – What is Filial Piety
    CONFUCIAN TEACHING Three Confucian Values: Filial Piety (Xiao)
    Heaven’s Lunch
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Why Filial Piety
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Line 3 to 6
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Line 7
    What Life Asks of Us
    AESOP’s tales the young thief and his mother
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Line 8 to 13
    What is that ( parents in english )
    A Parent’s Love – I Cried After Watching This…
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Line 14 to 16
    Chapter 1. Filial Piety – Practice of Filial Piety in the Analects
  7. Di Zi Gui Chapter 2 07:32
    Chapter 2. Respect – Line 17 to 20
    Japan fans CLEAN UP stadium following goalless World Cup draw with Greece
    Spirit of Japan
    Chapter 2. Respect – Line 21 to 27
    Teaching Respect and Manners – How Do They Do It In Japan?
    Polite Japanese Kids
  8. Di Zi Gui Chapter 3 08:41
    Chapter 3. Prudent Line 28 to 30
    The Importance of Good Personal Hygiene
    Chapter 3. Prudent – Line 31 to 40
    School in Japan
    Chapter 3. Prudent – Line 41 to 44
  9. Di Zi Gui Chapter 4 10:54
    Chapter 4. Trustworthy – Line 45 to 51
    See the Pass it On ‘Honesty’ commercial – Stay honest under pressure | Values.com
    A tour on board The Honesty Shop
    Eye Spy – Britain’s Honesty Do Brits shoplift in a no man operated shop?
    The Empty Pot
    Fairy tales for children: Honest boy
    How Xiang Tuo Became the Teacher of Confucius at the Age of 7
    Wei Zheng, a clear Head Comes from an Open Mind
    Yellow Ribbon Project 10th Anniversary Video
    Chapter 4. Trustworthy – Line 52 to 53
    Chapter 4. Trustworthy Line 54 to 59
  10. Di Zi Gui Chapter 5 03:51
    Chapter 5: Love All Equally Line 60 to 64
    TEDxSingapore – 113 year old Teresa Hsu – Wisdom for all ages
    Global Warming A video by NASA
    Saving Earth Promise Song for Kid
  11. Di Zi Gui Chapter 6 14:38
    Chapter 6. Be Close to People of Virtue – What is REN
    CONFUCIAN TEACHING Three Confucian Values: Humaneness (Ren)
    Chapter 6. Be Close to People of Virtue Line 75 to 78
    Chapter 6. Be Close to People of Virtue Line 75 to 78
    The Teen Brain by Debra Bradley Ruder
    How to Protect Kids on the Internet
  12. Di Zi Gui Chapter 7 13:04
    Chapter 7. Study and Learn Line 79 to 80
    Chapter 7. Study and Learn Line 81 to 82
    Chapter 7. Study and Learn Line 83 to 90
  13. Additional Resources
    DI ZI GUI And The Analects of Confucius
    Di-Zi-Gui-and-Analects
    Summary
    Course Bonus 08:12
    DZG-Hanyu-Pinyin
    Di Zi Gui – Fun and Easy Learning Video for Children and Parents
    Monitor Your Child’s Learning Progress FREE
    Daily Tasks Progress Monitoring
    Thank You And Good Bye 00:46
    Parting Video – A Famous Quote from Confucius

 

ARE YOU A –

  • Parent with young children
  • Married couple planning to have children
  • Parent / caregiver who are looking for guidelines in the cultivation of moral values in children
  • Teacher working with children
  • Father-to-be or pregnant mother

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Di Zi Gui for Old Thong Chai Medical Institution

更多企业开班 让员工学《弟子规》 – 8频道新闻及时事节目

更多企业让员工上《弟子规》课程,培养道德价值观。有医院设网络直播让不同分行的员工甚至病人同步上课,有餐饮集团指出,上课后员工之间的摩擦明显减少,工作效率也提升。

I am very happy to learn that Old Thong Chai Medical Institution is the latest corporation in Singapore to offer Di Zi Gui classes for its employees.

In year 2011, I read about Mr Hu Xiao Lin (胡小林) the owner of a Chinese firm, 北京汇通汇利公司 (http://www.yima-huitong.com/) , who started an initiative for all his staff to learn Di Zi Gui. Within the first year of implementation, his company made a total profit of $6 million RMB. According to Mr Hu, after his staff learn Di Zi Gui, the relationship among the staff has improved. He also refrained from drinking and consuming meat. He runs his business based upon Confucius’ teachings and made amendments to his company’s policies to be in line with Di Zi Gui.

In December 2015, Ms Tjioe Ka In (周家茵), then Executive Director of Singapore’s leading Restaurant group, Tung Lok, started to offer Di Zi Gui classes for staff.

Old Thong Chai Medical Institution is the latest company in Singapore to adopt Di Zi Gui.

I wish that more companies in Singapore and the world will introduce Di Zi Gui as part of staff training.

Di Zi Gui is a well-known secular Chinese Classics based on the ancient teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius. For more than 2,000 years, Confucius’ deeds have been admired by both government officials and the general public, and his character constantly emulated. His philosophy has become the mainstream of traditional Chinese culture and the basis of moral norms.

Otherwise known as the Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child, this book is based on the ancient teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius that emphasises the basic requisite for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. It covers core values of Respect, Responsibility, Resilience, Integrity, Care and Harmony.

If you are interested to learn Di Zi Gui, please click below link.

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Great quotes from The Analects

The Analects, or Lunyu, also known as the Analects of Confucius, is the collection of sayings and ideas attributed to the Chinese philosopher Confucius and his contemporaries, traditionally believed to have been written by Confucius’ followers.

There are 20 chapters in the Analects and are grouped by individual themes, but the chapters are not arranged in any sort of way so as to carry a continuous stream of thoughts or ideas. (Source: Wikipedia)

Chapter
1 學而 Xue Er “Learning”
2 為政 Wei Zheng “Exercising Government”
3 八佾 Ba Yi “Eight pantomimes”
4 里仁 Li Ren “Virtuous manners in neighbourhood”
5 公冶長 Gongye Zhang (name of a person)
6 雍也 Yong ye “There is Yong”
7 述而 Shu er “Transmitting”
8 泰伯 Taibo (name of a person)
9 子罕 Zi han “[What the] Master seldom [speak of]”
10 鄉黨 Xiangdang “In the village”
11 先進 Xian jin “Men of former times”
12 顏淵 Yan Yuan “A disciple of Confucius”
13 子路 Zi lu “name of a person”
14 憲問 Xian wen “Xian asked”
15 衛靈公 Wei Linggong “name of a ruler”
16 季氏 Ji shi “[The head of] the Ji clan”
17 陽貨 Yang huo “name of a person”
18 微子 Wei zi “The viscount of Wei”
19 子張 Zizhang “a disciple of Confucius”
20 堯曰 Yao yue “Yao said”

www.chinaknowledge.de/Literature/Classics/lunyu.html

1.1 子曰:「學而時習之,不亦說乎?有朋自遠方來,不亦樂乎?人不知而不慍,不亦君子乎?」  Confucius said, “To study and consistently practise what you have learned, is it not joyous? To have friends come from afar to share about learning, is it not happiness? To be unperturbed when not appreciated by others, is he not a true gentleman?”
1.2 有子曰。其爲人也孝弟、而好犯上者、鮮矣。不好犯上、而好作亂者、未之有也。君子務本、本立而道生。孝弟也者、其爲仁之本與 You Zi said: “For those who are being filial and fraternal, it is rare to find amongst  them who enjoy offending their superiors.  For those who do not enjoy offending against their superiors, never has there been one who is an agitator. (Jun Zi) The Gentleman concerns himself with the fundamentals. Once the fundamentals are established, the proper way appears. Hence, filial piety and respecting elders are the fundamentals of humanity and benevolence.
5.15 子貢問曰:「孔文子何以謂之『文』也?」

子曰:「敏而好學,不恥下問,是以謂之『文』也。」 公冶長 十五

Zi gòng (子貢), asked his teacher Confucius the reason why a great man by the name of Kǒng yǔ孔圉, an official of country WEI (衛國) was being highly regarded.

To which Confucius replied, he is hardworking yet eager to learn new knowledge; he asks questions to people lower rank than him.

 7.20  子曰:“我非生而知之者,好古,敏以求之者也。”《论语》述而篇第二十  Confucius said, I am not born with all my knowledge. I love and learn from traditional culture; I put in great effort to attain them.
7.37 子溫而厲,威而不猛,恭而安。 述而第七《三十七》 According to his students, Confucius is serious and stern however gentle when you get close to him; A man with dignity however not fierce; Respectful and serene.

溫 – 溫和  Friendly or gentle

厲 – 嚴肅 Serious or stern

威 – 威嚴 Dignity, quality of being worthy of honour or respect

不猛 – 不剛猛 Not fierce or aggressive

恭 – 謙恭 Respectful, Act or posture of lowering oneself in relation to others

安 – 安適 Serene, calm and peaceful

This is how a student of Confucius view about his teacher. Confucius believes in the avoidance of excess or extremes, especially in one’s behaviour and words.

17.6

子張問仁於孔子。孔子曰:「能行五者於天下為仁矣。」「請問之。」曰:「恭、寬、信、敏、惠。恭則不侮,寬則得眾,信則人任焉,敏則有功,惠則足以使人。」《論語》陽貨第十七

Confucius replied that when a person possesses FIVE virtues, he is considered to be a person with Benevolence.

Zi Zhang asked again, “What are the Five Virtues?”

“Respect, Magnanimity, Trustworthy, Hardworking and Graciousness.”

“Have Respect for others, and you will not be humiliated, Magnanimous and be recognized.

“Be Trustworthy and you will be trusted, Hardworking to get work done, and Graciousness and you can command others.”

 

 

Cultivate Good Behaviour In Your Child Using Chinese Classics Di Zi Gui

My article to Zao Bao

Recently, I wrote an article <用弟子规教好你的孩子> in Lian He Zao Bao.

In this article, I quoted a teaching by Confucius “道之以政,齐之以刑,民免而无耻;道之以德,齐之以礼,有耻且格”。

It means that if a country is governed only by Law, the citizens may not commit crimes as they are afraid of being punished; however, if a country is guided by moral values as the fundamental, then the citizens will not commit crimes because they are afraid of the shame and disgracefulness that will bring to him and his family.

There are many reports in the recent years of crimes such as murders, briberies, sex scandal, frauds, etc. Many of these crimes are committed by the well-educated. Most parents that I talk to felt that the root cause of this is due to the lack in moral values in a person.

In my article, I stressed the importance of instilling and cultivating moral values from young. I believe that the values taught to a young child, whether good or bad, will have an impact on this child when he grows up, and may influence his beliefs, his behaviour and his actions. In fact, Sean Brotherson, published a paper”Understanding Brain Development in Young Children“, to assist parents understand how a child’s brain develops and their important role in interacting with children to support brain development. He explained that the synapses in a child’s brain are strengthened through repeated experiences, connections and pathways are formed that structure the way a child learns. When a connection is used repeatedly in the early years, it becomes permanent.

From birth, the brain rapidly is creating these connections that form our habits, thoughts, consciousness, memories and mind.

Character Education is of equal, if not higher, importance compared to the academic results of a child. This is echoed by Jessica Lahey, a teacher at a “core virtues” school. She wrote an article titled, “The Benefits of Character Education” in The Atlantic Magazine“. She cited “Character education is not old-fashioned, and it’s not about bringing religion in to the classroom. Character is the “X factor” that experts in parenting and education have deemed integral to success.”

As parents, we may well spend a lot on improving our children’s academic results. However, that does not necessarily mean our children are learning the fundamental moral values they should have in life.

Different parents view and measure good behaviour in their children differently. What are good moral values? What do parents do when they do not know what values to teach? While most parents feel that they can teach their children character development and good behaviour, what then do they base their teaching on?

One good traditional classics that parents can use is Di Zi Gui <弟子规>.

Di Zi Gui <弟子规> is a well-known secular Chinese Classics based on the ancient teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius. For more than 2,000 years, Confucius’ deeds have been admired by both government officials and the general public, and his character constantly emulated. His philosophy has become the mainstream of traditional Chinese culture and the basis of moral norms.

Di Zi Gui <弟子规> is the Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child. This book is based on the ancient teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius that emphasizes the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. It covers core values of Filial Piety, Respect, Responsibility, Resilience, Integrity, Care and Harmony which is in-line with what the government hopes to see in all our children and youths.

The editor of Lian He Zao Bao rightly pointed out that Di Zi Gui <弟子规> is only another reference if parents do not practise what they preach.

Hence, to be effective in learning Di Zi Gui <弟子规>, I give assignments to my students to apply the knowledge that they learn in my class into daily practices and completion of simple household chores/tasks that require their parents’ acknowledgement.

In addition, i also started a Di Zi Gui <弟子规> talk/workshop for parents. I strongly believe that as adults, parents have the obligation to and are responsible for their children’s upbringing.  When a child possesses good behaviour, it represents that he is a respectable person raised by respectable parents. Children learn and observe their good behaviour by what they have learned from others.

So parents, grab one copy of Di Zi Gui 弟子规 and start learning with your child today!

用《弟子规》来教好你的孩子!

My article to Zao Bao

最近两三年发生的社会犯罪事件越来越频密,而且严重。结党营私、肇事杀人、贪污舞弊、诈骗讹人等等,屡见不鲜,时时重现。犯案者大多数都受过高等教育,甚至包括在政府部门担任重要职位的精英分子。

看到这些新闻时,人们不免会感叹为何越来越多人犯罪被捉?为何一些人连最基本的道德都不能遵守,导致社会秩序一片混乱?

大多数人往往把矛头指向执法单位,警察应该多巡逻,应该有更多的闭路电视等等。这些只是治标但不能治本。为何我们不深入思考,怎样才能不让这类事件发生呢?

新加坡的严刑峻法是广为人知的,按理说,既然社会环境良好,不应该有那么多的罪案发生才是,因此难免有人会问,问题到底出在哪里?这些犯案者从小也接受了很好的教育,到底是什么原因,促使他们长大以后铤而走险,犯下大罪?

每当我和学生的父母谈到这些问题时,他们都不约而同地说,现在的人是因为缺乏正确的道德价值观,才会做错事,而家长也认同道德教育必须要从小就灌输,要给孩子们正确的道德理念。

孔子说过,“道之以政,齐之以刑,民免而无耻;道之以德,齐之以礼,有耻且格”。若以刑罚来管束,人民只是为了免于刑罚而服从,因此不敢做坏事。应以道德教育教人为基础,使人知耻而不愿做坏事,才是上上之策。

值得高兴的是,新加坡教育部决定开始每年给品行优异的小学生至大专生颁发品德奖。此外也摘下今后所有会考的“状元榜”。这也证明了我国政府已经看到了问题所在,积极推动更全面的道德教育。

现在的孩子普遍不缺物质的享受,和其他国家的孩子比起来,我们的孩子的确幸福多了。但我相信很多父母亲都会说现在的孩子很难教。互联网的普及化及其负面的影响,再加上双亲在外工作,造成与孩子的沟通出现问题等等,都让许多家长伤脑筋。

各位家长不妨看一看自己的孩子,“道德考试”及格吗?若是不及格,那该如何做呢?家长如何把道德的理念,从小在自己的孩子身上扎根,不让他行差踏错?家长教导他们道德品行教育,又应该以什么作为依据?

在这里建议父母亲不妨试一试用《弟子规》。《弟子规》的《入则孝》篇,其中一段教导孩子“身有伤,贻亲忧,德有伤,贻亲羞”。意思就是说,一个孩子身体有伤痛,最担心的是父母亲,而一个孩子做了伤风败德的错事就会让他的父母亲感到蒙羞。为了不让父母亲蒙受耻辱,千万不要做坏事。

记得有一男学生从五六岁就学习《弟子规》,他在班上总是爱说话,也很调皮,经常作弄其他同学。

他升上小学五年级后,有一天我出外用早餐时遇见他,刚好看到他从家里乘搭巴士,也来买早餐给父母亲吃。这名学生上了《弟子规》课程后,学习到如何在家孝顺父母,他的孝心使我心中感到无限欣慰,也更加坚定道德教育必须从小时候培养,坚持不懈。

报章上报道的这一些罪案,犯案者绝大多数是受过高等教育的,因此,家长在孩子身上花了很多的钱,让他们上最好的补习班,考得好成绩,并不能代表孩子长大以后,不会走错路,以至悔恨终生。而《三字经》里的“养不教,父之过”,强调了父母在教育子女方面的重大责任。所以把孩子教成一个品格端正的人,父母亲责无旁贷。

《弟子规》是一部教育孩子如何做人、如何做事的好经典,规范了身为孩子在日常生活应该注意的礼仪,从而养成优良的品行的好书。《弟子规》教导孩子如何孝顺父母,友爱兄弟姐妹,谨言慎行,做一个守信用的人等等。据我所知,我国一些学校、幼儿园已经开始教导孩子读《弟子规》了,今天就用《弟子规》来教好你的孩子!